Tips from the experts.

Written by Mistress Scarlett

So the idea of chastity appeals to you? Decided on a keyholder or just want to try it out for yourself? Does tease and denial turn you on? Perhaps you are in a kinky relationship and want to hand over control of your orgasms to someone else? Whatever the reason you decided you would like to try out a chastity device, there are a few hints and tips that might help you enjoy the experience more or help you save some money in the long term.

 

 

While most people believe the most important thing is that the device is completely secure and prevents you from escaping, this tends to be more a fantasy as people that are desperate to escape the device will find a way. The psychological and mental aspect of chastity, handing over keys to your locked-up penis is what appeals to those who are looking into chastity from a more realistic aspect.  

 

You need to want to offer honesty and your chastity to someone and actually be into the idea of enjoying your predicament and the pleasure the control offers to your key-holder.  Denial of orgasm can have various other benefits, even if it is self imposed as well, but we will leave you to discover this for yourself. To prevent disillusion from the start, you need to realise that you would be going into chastity willingly and not escaping needs to come from a place of willpower and possibly submission as well as almost all devices can be escaped from if you try hard enough (or simply cut it off).  

 

No chastity device is 100% secure and if your device does not fit you well, there is a good chance that you could escape from it if you tried hard enough.  Even if you get a device specially made for you and measured to your size, your actual size can change dramatically depending on how much you expand when aroused, how much you shrink when cold or even what time of the day you measured up for the chastity device.  The device is generally designed to fit around scrotum as well as penis, and even this area can change in size quite dramatically, even to the point of the testicles retracting back in to the body under some circumstances. So whether you buy off the shelf, or custom made, there is still some chance of escape if you really want to.

 

Okay, so it may not be possible to find a 100% escape proof chastity device, so what should you look for as a beginner? The answer to anyone looking to wear a cage for any length of time is comfort. Having a device that causes too much irritation and pain will generally result in it being removed for extended periods, which defeats the whole object and generally leads to a lack of interest in continuing with chastity in future.

 

 

For long term chastity to be effective, you need to wear a cage that fits well and is comfortable for you.  Make sure you measure correctly for the main ring (it must fit securely but comfortably and not cut off circulation). Start with a larger ring than you think you need and work downwards until you find one that is snug and holds the cage on comfortably without the colour of your genitals changing (blue is not a good colour for your testicles in this aspect).

 

Wear the chosen ring for a few days to get a good feel for it and change up or down as you see fit until you have one that works well for you. Changes to your genitalia such as a “morning glory” which causes a bit of restriction due to the swelling of the penis may cause mild discomfort, but should not be terribly painful. Other changes to your body such as stomach pain, urinary tract issues, aching or burning in the testicles are all signs of severe discomfort and indicate a larger ring size may be needed.

 

 

When measuring for length, get a cage that is the right size to allow the tip of a flaccid penis to rest gently against the front of the cage without pushing through the top.  Longer cages often result in too much moisture due to urine ending up inside the cage and also allows for too much manoeuvrability. A cage that is too small can cause rubbing, pinching and uncomfortable bulging outside of the cage. Measure a few times during the day to get a more accurate measurement, to allow for body changes at different times of the day. The actual diameter of the cage is less important but a snugger fit will allow for less mess but also less airflow. The less space there is, the less comfortable an attempted erection will be as well.

 

 

Choose your materials wisely as well. A silicone chastity device is a good beginner device, but doesn't really prevent masturbation with the device on and has to be lubricated often to prevent it sticking to the skin. Harder plastics are also available and may be a little harder to masturbate, but also need to be lubricated often to remain comfortable.

  

We contacted some of the top chastity bloggers who have been into chastity for years. Chastity is their lifestyle choice so who better to ask for their top tips and advice for beginners who are just starting out. We got some great and asked them what their top tips would be for beginners just starting out. So here goes: -

 

The Mistress Keyholder who is obsessed with male chastity gives these helpful tips for beginners: -

Lady M from the fantasic Monkey in a Cage provides this important advice:

Furcissy from the brilliant blog Femdom Ramblings from a Submissive Male says:

Pcguy from the wonderfully informative Thrill of the Chaste says “If you're just trying to get started with chastity:”